Real Food for Thought: Coffee

At the breakfast table one morning during a conference, there was cup of coffee for each one of the person except one woman, surprised, she asked "What about me? Why didn't I get a cup of coffee?" Someone answered her "You have to flip your cup so they will fill your cup up with coffee."

Really? Then.. what if it's between two person? Who's going to be flipping the cup? Who's going to fill up the cup? Who's even going to brew the coffee?

So far, I realized this is the work of the mom, the wife, the girlfriend. Guys, why can't you flip my cup and pour me coffee?

I'm listening to this sort of frustrating audio where they called "The Woman's Book of Soul", I have been looking for "The Man's Book of Soul" too... but they don't have it (yet?) ^^ Wait.. does man even have a soul? Actually, their book of soul is the car manual, the computer magazine, the porn magazine, the games manual, or maybe for some whatever hobby it is, or for the goodie good ones, they might really be the Bible.

Anyway~ the audio is sort of repeating how we as women has to control, has to contain us inward, has to flow, like how "water" is describe as feminine. Women has to be feminine, women has to be understanding, she has to raise children, she has to be supportive to her husband, she has to be caring, she has to be loving, she has to be spreading love to everyone cos she can conquer everything with love, she has to let go of her fear or negative emotions and be peaceful, be calm - how I see it as being a "loving doll" that's forever smiling and living her life for men.

"You can't get anything until you change yourself" Maybe, is this what women really have to do?

Do women really have to live as water and deform us so we can have a "good" relationship? If women are really "water", who's there to boil the water and keep it warm? Who's there to boil water, and put in the beans and brew some nice smelling coffee?

I'm now thinking, woman has to do it all herself in her life - "first, be "water", keep herself "hot or at least warm" all the time (with our own help - whatever it is, keep in shape, be gentle, be girly, etc), and when she keeps up being warm/hot and the man decide to keep the relationship, then she has to boil herself (on the way, she evaporates herself and some of herself disappear), and then the men add the coffee beans (I called it marriage, hopefully is fresh and good), and brew and brew and brew, she let herself absorb every sweet, bitterness and all the other hundreds of thousands of taste of "marriage" (well, coffee has the most complex make up of tastes/chemicals out of all the food we human known), she then become a different thing, full of everything, good and bad, and hopefully she becomes the good coffee that people loves to drink (on her way to reach that point, she risk that she would over boil herself, lost herself, and disappeared completely, dead, or she might be turned bad when no one care to do anything about the boiling the coffee (marriage), it just went bad and got to dump it in the sink)

When a marriage failed, the guy doesn't lose anything, it's just the woman that got poured into the drain, and no where to be found.

Anyway, going back to the flipping cup. Instead of flipping my cup and wait for people to pour me coffee, for me now it's more like: You have to buy a cup of coffee from Tim Hortons (pay a "price", an "admission"), in order to win anything (or not). BTW You only have a rare chance to win! haha.

and of course, most time, I got the "Play Again"

One thing I got from this audio that's helpful for me is how they stress we have to put our relationship with God as the most important part of your life, let His love flow in you, and let yourself be fill of His love - let His love flow from you to others around us. It is very true.

I asked: What about a woman's life? Who's there to support her? Who's there to love her if she never learned to love, never be understood by anyone, hopeless or heart broken? If she can't love yet, then she doesn't deserve to be loved?... No, she deserve it, only the love from God, only God can truly love her then... When she found God and peace, She can finally win. I am on my way to win.